Getting Done: An IWSG Post

6:00 AM Elizabeth Seckman 61 Comments


Now that my kids are grown and out of the house most days, I get asked if I ever get bored or lonely. I suppose I should say yes- out of sentimentality. But the real answer is not really. 
Sure, I miss the noise of boys, but I'm happy to see them set out on their own adventures. I believe in roots and wings. 
I also have the upside of being a writer. Writers are never alone because characters and stories are as insistent for attention as the neediest toddlers. 
And about the boredom...honestly, I don't know that I have ever been bored in my adult life. I constantly have the nagging feeling that there is never enough time to finish all that I want to do. That's also one of my biggest insecurities. My inability to get my crap together well enough to get everything done I need, or want, to finish in this life. 

October's Optional IWSG Question! It's been said that the benefits of becoming a writer who does not read is that all your ideas are new and original. Everything you do is an extension of yourself, instead of a mixture of you and another author. On the other hand, how can you expect other people to want your writing, if you don't enjoy reading? What are your thoughts?

I know writers who don't read, but I don't trust them. It just doesn't make sense to me to love words but hate to read them. 

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Now that's an attitude you can trust. 

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61 comments:

  1. It's been a long time since I was bored.

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    1. I think the last time was when I was a young teen...

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  2. The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Pie Society, such a wonderful choice!

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    1. I am a bit red-faced. I'd never heard of it. I'll have to pick it up.

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  3. Who has time to get bored? There's always a million and one things to do around here. And then I get to squeeze in some writing. And my kids and grand-babies are around 24/7. LOL>
    Loved the Movie: The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Pie Society.

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    1. I must come out from under my rock. I'd never heard of this book, much less knew it was a movie. Too much focus on super hero movies in this house.

      I don't have any grandbabies, unless you count the furry variety.

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  4. Love this so much: "Writers are never alone because characters and stories are as insistent for attention as the neediest toddlers." I retired, so now I work 12 hour days. lol

    I LOVE the Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Pie Society. It's one of my favorite books. I really enjoyed the film, but the books was still better. :D

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  5. I don't think it's that I get bored as an adult, but that I sometimes become paralyzed by everything I want to do so I end up not doing anything. :)

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    1. Oh, now that's a whole different matter entirely. I get brain lock all the time!

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  6. I’m not bored either. My writing and reading are a great comfort and keep me busy when I’m home alone. I do still miss my daughter living with me but am glad she’s doing well as an adult.

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    1. It's impossible not to miss them. Most people consider their high school years their glory days. My glory days are the times spent with my kids.

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  7. Hi,
    I so understand your position on not being bored. I went through a major crisis in my life in February of this year when my husband died. We didn't have any children and everybody was very concerned about how I was going to deal with being alone, but I wasn't concerned. I have my been reading and writing for years. I have my characters who now demand my attention. I had already started learning how to knit and committed myself to a small knitting group before he died, and I have my music. Sometimes I wonder where does the time go because before I know it, it is bedtime.
    I enjoyed reading your article and especially the first part.

    Shalom aleichem,
    Pat G @ EverythingMustChange

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    1. Pat, I am so sorry about your husband, but I am glad you have writing and are exploring hobbies. I believe we honor those who go on before on by doing as much good and being as productive as we can on earth, so that when we meet up with them in Heaven, we can tell them what all we did. Hugs. You keep writing!

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  8. I can't imagine being bored either. I loved "The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Pie Society" - great choice for the book club. I might need to reread that one. Pippi is adorable :)

    Cheers - Ellen

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  9. What is bored, anyway? I always have a list of things I need to do

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    1. I've been told boredom is this feeling of having nothing to do. I think it happens to people without imaginations. LOL

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  10. I really can't imagine feeling bored. Between projects, not sure which direction to take, trying to organize ... those are the least exciting moments. Even when I'm in a waiting room or a long line, I have plenty to think about.
    Roots and wings are good. I ache for my daughters sometimes, but they are living life well and I'm thankful for that. As long as they visit sometimes and call me, it's good. :)

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    1. You said it perfectly. Time to think...I do enjoy those rare, quiet moments.

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  11. That's a good point. I'm not sure if I get how someone could love to write but hate to read. The two go together.

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  12. "I know writers who don't read, but I don't trust them. It just doesn't make sense to me to love words but hate to read them." Love that! Happy IWSG day :-)

    Ronel visiting and on co-hosting IWSG day Co-hosting, Flagship Content and Interesting Developments

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  13. Great point that writers are never really alone. I love spending time with my characters - even the evil ones. :)

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    1. I tried to write a horror once. The evil characters kept me up at night. I don;t make them so evil anymore.

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  14. I'd love to be bored, and I'm pretty sure it's never going to happen.

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    1. I have a to do list a mile long. One day, I might get to the bottom of it and then I'll get started on my to-read list.

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  15. I've never been bored. And that dog reading? I've told hubs more than once to use his T.V. ears and mute the sound so I can read in peace!

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    1. I was blessed to be the youngest of five. I can block out any amount of noise in real life.

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  16. I'm keeping myself busier then usual and there is not time to be bored!

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    1. Nope. Make time for relaxing, but no time to be bored.

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  17. I don't think I'm ever bored (except maybe at work, lol). I wish there were more hours in the day to do all the things I want/need to do!

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    1. Bored time at work is a good time to day dream- just be sure to get your job done.

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  18. I think people who ask about the boredom (or loneliness) have problems with boredom themselves and are projecting. Maybe they are looking for help for when it strikes them?

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    1. Very good point. Next time I'm asked, I'll offer some ideas for entertaining themselves. Being bored can border on depression. Avoid it at all costs.

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  19. Yeah, can't say I've been bored in a long arse time.

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  20. I remember as a kid saying I was bored a lot. Nowadays, I wonder why I have to sleep! There's so much to be done and not enough time. I want that bored time back from when I was a child so I can use it now. :) I wouldn't trust writers who didn't read either.

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    1. I have said it as a kid. My mother would counter with- well, if you're bored, I have a job for you. Looking back, she may be responsible for my boredom-averse personality. LOL

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  21. Bored? What's that? Thanks for giving WEP a shout out. Re reading: "I know writers who don't read, but I don't trust them. It just doesn't make sense to me to love words but hate to read them." You said it all.

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  22. I had not thought of it as not trusting but make a good point. Happy IWSG~

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  23. Writers need to read to fill the creative wells. And reading also keeps people abreast of what is popular.

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  24. Life's too short to waste time being bored. Boredom should be reserved for foolish children, who think they're gonna live forever. :)

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  25. LOVE the Asimov quote and believing in roots and wings:)
    Congrats to Kerry.
    Great post as always.
    Enjoy your weekend;)

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  26. "Writers are never alone..." I love that!

    Another thing that I love about being a writer, is that when the power/TV goes out, I can write (or read), while my siblings don't do either one, so they're bored out of their minds.

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    1. The only bother with a power outage is when you need the AC.

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  27. I rarely get bored. Seriously, I don't get it when people say that.

    Teresa

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    1. It must be the lack of imagination. I feel bad for them.

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  28. Reading helps give us creative ideas. And without reading I suppose we are like still water in a pond. And of course reading keeps the boredom away!

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    1. And still waters go stagnant. Never be still, go read.

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  29. My aunt always told me that bored people were boring. I try to avoid being both!

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    1. I always thought it was because I was easily entertained. I like your aunt's theory much better.

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  30. I've talked to folks that are bored after they retire. With me it's, really? Now work doesn't get in the way of writing;) I miss the kids, but enjoy the quiet.

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    1. I miss them too, but unless I want to make them Norman-Bates-like, I have to let them grow up and leave the nest. So, there is no other option than to adjust to the quiet.

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  31. When I'm bored, it means I'm antsy and/or depressed.
    Otherwise, I'm like you - I have too many projects going at once to get bored.
    Be well, girlie.

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