tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2115704751652270450.post5970013377710024425..comments2024-03-28T07:01:27.429-04:00Comments on Elizabeth Seckman, Author: Pursuing HappinessElizabeth Seckmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00045076826326574984noreply@blogger.comBlogger34125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2115704751652270450.post-76958351074430757142019-01-17T02:35:02.511-05:002019-01-17T02:35:02.511-05:00I'll have to check out Mad Libs Theater. I use...I'll have to check out Mad Libs Theater. I used to do Mad Libs as a kid and bought them for my own boys. So much fun!!Elizabeth Seckmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00045076826326574984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2115704751652270450.post-11339998749248541662019-01-17T02:33:34.273-05:002019-01-17T02:33:34.273-05:00Animals are great mood lifters. It's good to s...Animals are great mood lifters. It's good to stop and enjoy the little things, like cats stalking birds!Elizabeth Seckmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00045076826326574984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2115704751652270450.post-155468547451212222019-01-17T02:06:16.575-05:002019-01-17T02:06:16.575-05:00One day, my friend. One day. Virtual cheers until ...One day, my friend. One day. Virtual cheers until then!Elizabeth Seckmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00045076826326574984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2115704751652270450.post-46851025119861261432019-01-17T02:05:40.364-05:002019-01-17T02:05:40.364-05:00I like a positive spin too. It's the cup half ...I like a positive spin too. It's the cup half empty/half full debate. I'm on the side that every cup is full because even if it's filled with air, it's still filled. Elizabeth Seckmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00045076826326574984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2115704751652270450.post-79394955707846362332019-01-16T17:36:40.160-05:002019-01-16T17:36:40.160-05:00Wise words, my friend. Oh the hours and lives wast...Wise words, my friend. Oh the hours and lives wasted trying to attain a certain point of "happiness." It's elusive. Better to dodge angst and all the yucky stuff, as much as possible - with mai tais (naturally) on hand.<br />Love ya.Rawknrobyn.blogspot.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15997241410192066577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2115704751652270450.post-34060969060367465662019-01-16T16:00:30.736-05:002019-01-16T16:00:30.736-05:00I am a huge believer in seeing the world With chil...I am a huge believer in seeing the world With child eyes. Even when we can’t control certain circumstances, there’s a positive way to spin anything. That’s what I believe. That’s the thought that helps<br />me keep trucking ahead. Happy Wednesday Elizabeth. Erika Beebehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12899619461035583262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2115704751652270450.post-36901782069924487942019-01-16T11:33:15.488-05:002019-01-16T11:33:15.488-05:00Tiny blessings counted up seem to be the only way ...Tiny blessings counted up seem to be the only way I can "find" happiness in the middle of a grumpy/down day. Forcing it doesn't work. However, I have found that I really like watching funny videos on Youtube - like Mad Libs Theater - if I need a quick pick up or a laugh. <br />I love your blessings journal idea. And, I'm with Christine - it's the tiny/small things that are the most wonderful - the sound of laughter, the funny noises my cat and dog make, the wind in the trees outside (gusty, not the all-night storm variety), and bits of blue sky moments.Tyrean Martinsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15356604721537744361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2115704751652270450.post-38911148280876932152019-01-16T09:12:27.744-05:002019-01-16T09:12:27.744-05:00Like Tonja, it's the little things that make m...Like Tonja, it's the little things that make me happy. Sometimes I don't even realize how much so until I notice I'm grinning or laughing. I just laughed at the cat making silly noises at the birds he sees in the tree outside. I guess that makes up for him walking on my face this morning!Christine Rainshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08263694662585963900noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2115704751652270450.post-78178104364530563572019-01-15T19:23:06.856-05:002019-01-15T19:23:06.856-05:00That is a great way to look at it. It applies to m...That is a great way to look at it. It applies to movies too. When I am expecting big things from a movie, I am often let down. <br /><br />And expectations can be so unreasonable. Learn to enjoy the things that veer off course. Those are the unscripted parts of life that often offer the best memories. Elizabeth Seckmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00045076826326574984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2115704751652270450.post-65334065048541238002019-01-15T16:43:41.568-05:002019-01-15T16:43:41.568-05:00I always come back to the formula for happiness:
...I always come back to the formula for happiness:<br /><br />Happiness = Reality - Expectations<br /><br />If reality is great and expectations are low, there's going to be a whole lot more happiness if the reality is disappointing and the expectations are high. I pretty much go into everything with low expectations now a days, that way I'm usually thrilled (or at least not displeased) by the outcome. Loni Townsendhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05126958230703180761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2115704751652270450.post-27874186507042895672019-01-15T15:14:13.655-05:002019-01-15T15:14:13.655-05:00You have found the true key to happiness!You have found the true key to happiness!Elizabeth Seckmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00045076826326574984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2115704751652270450.post-203062838410152482019-01-15T13:14:09.742-05:002019-01-15T13:14:09.742-05:00I find happiness in the silliest and smallest thin...I find happiness in the silliest and smallest things, more so than the bigger ones. That way I have an excuse to smile many times every day ;)Tonja Dreckerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07683717853264134466noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2115704751652270450.post-82256339790266673952019-01-15T02:05:16.292-05:002019-01-15T02:05:16.292-05:00That's the worst part of adulthood. Responsibi...That's the worst part of adulthood. Responsibility. So much more fun when that was all my parents' problem. Elizabeth Seckmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00045076826326574984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2115704751652270450.post-41015704896428209692019-01-14T18:47:04.550-05:002019-01-14T18:47:04.550-05:00I think a lot of folks forget to ask themselves, &...I think a lot of folks forget to ask themselves, "do I want to be happy?" Oft times responsibility, money, success and other junk gets in the way. I think if we choose it, we can have it:)Markhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01793077012143289985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2115704751652270450.post-82825916370186283072019-01-14T14:37:38.824-05:002019-01-14T14:37:38.824-05:00@Linda, thanks for looking me up! I'm always h...@Linda, thanks for looking me up! I'm always happy when people take a look at the books. Lisa had your blog on her sidebar and it looked interesting. Blogging takes me a lot of time because I like to click around and read new, interesting things. <br /><br />I love the idea of a memoir. In the very least, it's a great gift to leave your family. At best, you have a book to sell! It's a win-win. Elizabeth Seckmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00045076826326574984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2115704751652270450.post-47995766077519501462019-01-14T14:32:51.612-05:002019-01-14T14:32:51.612-05:00I agree 100% with the attitude of gratitude. There...I agree 100% with the attitude of gratitude. There are so many blessings we take for granted every day. We're quick to blame Him when things go wrong, and slow to appreciate all the blessings we overlook. <br /><br />Thanks for stopping by!!Elizabeth Seckmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00045076826326574984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2115704751652270450.post-50997417051767312702019-01-14T12:04:00.001-05:002019-01-14T12:04:00.001-05:00Yes when you work at being happy it won't come...Yes when you work at being happy it won't come, you will be disappointed by the results, you just have to be, and let life take you there. Having those bad times only makes the happy times that much more special too, but i do believe we have to start off each day thanking God and being positive and the rest will just come. I haven't seen that movie, will have to check it out, never heard of the prayer flags either, that is interesting, kind of like the dream catchers.Conniecrafterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09266327228870948083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2115704751652270450.post-50137823512271256872019-01-14T10:28:47.430-05:002019-01-14T10:28:47.430-05:00Thank you for visiting my blog and your encouragin...Thank you for visiting my blog and your encouraging comment! I came over to visit you and found we have a mutual friend in Lisa!<br />I admire you for writing so many books! Im going to do as Lisa did and find your work and order at least one. I find writing is work and it’s not always easy work. My book is more of a memoir and I appreciate your encouragement.....Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09623820316056914224noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2115704751652270450.post-30713899619757297422019-01-14T01:17:08.269-05:002019-01-14T01:17:08.269-05:00Living one day at a time is a big one. During the ...Living one day at a time is a big one. During the worst times of my life, it was "one foot in front of the other" thinking that got me through. <br /><br /><br />As for letting go, I have two ways of thinking. If I've done my best and something didn't work out, it's probably not what was meant for me. If I've messed it up, I feel more regret, but I refuse to live backward, so all I can do is learn from the mistakes and try not to make them anymore. <br /><br />The older I get, the easier it is to relish the good things. I know it drives my kids crazy, but seriously, if something is survivable, I'm probably not going to freak out over it. I've seen what real problems look like and I'll not waste good times on the little things...if I can help it. I still have those days where I make a federal case out of losing my car keys! <br />Elizabeth Seckmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00045076826326574984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2115704751652270450.post-20292680145469972252019-01-14T01:09:15.992-05:002019-01-14T01:09:15.992-05:00Compared to yours, mine would be a one chapter boo...Compared to yours, mine would be a one chapter book!<br /><br />I do think the ultimate goal for a happy life is to find internal happiness. But then monks and philosophers have spent centuries trying to find the key to that state of being. Elizabeth Seckmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00045076826326574984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2115704751652270450.post-69142204152265146032019-01-13T11:40:28.009-05:002019-01-13T11:40:28.009-05:00I’ve known of prayer flags for years and love them...I’ve known of prayer flags for years and love them! I also loved this movie. It was better than I thought it would be when I first saw the trailer. Living life one day at a time seems to help with the happiness factor too. Relishing what you have while you have it and letting go when you must without regret is what I strive to do. Easier said than done!!!!Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06658507579160418855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2115704751652270450.post-69140756015562585182019-01-12T06:18:51.131-05:002019-01-12T06:18:51.131-05:00This post reminds me of the book "The Pursuit...This post reminds me of the book "The Pursuit of Happyness" by Chris Gardner (movie with Will Smith was good, too.)<br /><br />I totally agree. There's sooooo many opportunities for life to be bad/sad/mad that it only makes sense to have/find/search for a place of internal and external happiness... and when you find it... hang on for dear life!<br /><br />PS: Your comment made me laugh... there's probably a few words you could use to describe your life, but "seriously boring" it is not :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2115704751652270450.post-52674352349226506962019-01-11T20:39:56.492-05:002019-01-11T20:39:56.492-05:00I will admit, there are some days that I'll ju...I will admit, there are some days that I'll just feel buoyant for no apparent reason. My hairdresser would say those are days where I have angels in my atmosphere. Elizabeth Seckmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00045076826326574984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2115704751652270450.post-14702274072434339422019-01-11T20:38:54.030-05:002019-01-11T20:38:54.030-05:00The more you think about being happy, the less sat...The more you think about being happy, the less satisfied you'll feel. It's like checking out your pores under a magnifying glass. Take a step back and don't be so critical. Elizabeth Seckmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00045076826326574984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2115704751652270450.post-88284429110144753142019-01-11T20:36:57.970-05:002019-01-11T20:36:57.970-05:00I am a geographically displaced beach resident, wh...I am a geographically displaced beach resident, which means I was born to live near the beach, but was stuck in a land-locked place. The Outer Banks in NC is my home away from home, so many of my books are set there. Past Due and Defying Reason are both set in Buxton. Swept Away is set at Ocracoke. Bella's Point is set on the Snowbird Mountains farther inland. If I had to pick one as my favorite, that would be Bella. It's a historical novel set after the Civil War. The others are contemporary novels. <br />Past Due is an adult, character driven story; Defying Reason is an NA that switches POVs from hero to heroin (which was fun!); and Swept Away has a bit of a mystery/paranormal element to the romance. <br /><br />Thanks for stopping by and a huge thanks for asking about the books!!! <br />Elizabeth Seckmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00045076826326574984noreply@blogger.com