Maintaining Balance
We have a guest today! Rena Ford is stopping by to chat about balance.
I don't know about you, but I could use some balance. I'm as scattered as Humpty Dumpty after a nose dive from a cliff. So let's see if Rena can educate
Thanks for letting me take over your space today, Elizabeth!
I've noticed a recurring theme on a lot of blogs: balancing life and everything else. It's like we think we're SuperWoman or something. That’s been me these past few months, biting off more than I can chew! I’m pretty stressed out, and I’ve been noticing that I’m not the only one. So, pull up a chair, I’m about to give you the secret to balancing your insane life: work, school, family, hobbies―everything.
There are exactly two things that will balance all of this.
Are you ready for it?
No, I mean really, are you ready? This is magic I’m talking
about, so you’d better prepare yourself.
The first secret to balance is the power of “No.” When
things get too hard, or you’re looking at your schedule wondering how you will
be able to fit everything in, just remember that you do not have to do
EVERYTHING. But saying no is hard. I get that. Remember that if you find
yourself in the land of maybe, you’ll only string yourself along, carrying the
emotional weight of a commitment you can’t really make. Give yourself the gift
of No. If you’re holding on to a maybe, give yourself a concrete set of rules
for saying yes or no. This allows you to reduce the emotional weight the maybes
have, and free you up to get on with everything.
The second, less well known secret is to be present. When
you are doing something, do it with your whole heart. If it’s family time with
the kids, it’s not marketing on the side time. When you set aside time for each
of your activities, put all your attention into that activity. This, more than anything
else, will bring balance to your life. And, believe it or not, this is the
hardest thing for any of us to do. You have a second and you want to check your
phone, see what’s going on in the world, but when you do that, you’re checking
out of where you currently are. If you can give yourself the gift of being
present, it will make the time you do spend on your various tasks a higher
quality time. This makes a difference. The higher quality time, the more you
will feel like you actually accomplished something.
Of course, it’s easy to put these words up on a blog when we
all know that life is messier than that. Give these a chance and you’ll start
to feel like you have more time, even when you don’t.
Agree? Disagree? I’d love to hear how you are balancing your
crazy life in the comments (and just to be clear, I haven’t achieved it yet,
but this is the best approach I’ve found so far).
Allyson fights acne, not trolls. As
an inhaler-carrying member of the asthma society, she just wants to meet the
father who turned her mother into a paranoid, move-across-the-nation freak. Now
she’s trying to fit in at yet another school, but for the first time in her
life, she has a best friend, Beth. When Allyson accidentally spits fire at kidnappers
in the mall, she realizes why her father isn’t in the picture: she’s half
dragon. Her acne? Emerging scales. Her asthma? The side effects of her dragon's
fire breath. Instead of freaking out, unflappable Beth reveals her own troll
heritage and explains how things work with the supernatural creatures hiding
within the modern world of smartphones and skyscrapers.
When trolls kidnap a unicorn, Beth
gets blamed. Allyson is determined to prove Beth’s innocence and keep her
friend off the unicorn chopping block. When they start looking for the
kidnappers, they get a call from the last person they expect: Allyson’s father.
He tries to warn them off, but he's been put under a spell by the kidnappers to
keep the victims from escaping. Nothing short of death can stop him. Now
Allyson must choose between killing the father she’s always dreamed of, or letting
her best friend die for a crime she didn’t commit.
Like most mad scientists, Rena Rocford's early works were met with scorn
and mockery, but she bided her time. After all, what did her fellow
kindergarteners know about literature? Rena kept her writing on the
mythical back burner as she pursued more logical goals. Today, crayons.
Tomorrow, the world.
She spent years living as a normal, conducting experiments in shady laboratories, but always the stories returned. Admittedly, living as a muggle brought Rena some levels of success: a master's degree, a house and a family, but now the time is ripe for world domination, one book at a time. From her secret base in the wine country, Rena has enlisted the help of her cats, her loyal dogs, and her family―who can be relied upon to hide the launch codes at a moment's notice. You can find Rena at her blog, follow her on Twitter, or find her on Facebook.
She spent years living as a normal, conducting experiments in shady laboratories, but always the stories returned. Admittedly, living as a muggle brought Rena some levels of success: a master's degree, a house and a family, but now the time is ripe for world domination, one book at a time. From her secret base in the wine country, Rena has enlisted the help of her cats, her loyal dogs, and her family―who can be relied upon to hide the launch codes at a moment's notice. You can find Rena at her blog, follow her on Twitter, or find her on Facebook.
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Misha Gericke & Beth Fred host this monthly goal update. The idea is to think big...and then work hard to make it happen. It's time to set goals for 2016!
This year, I'm going to take a more balanced approach to my goals (because I totally agree with Rena!!). People always ask me what it takes to write a book, and I say five pounds. That's a joke, sort of. The reality is writing, editing, and online marketing require a lot of butt in the chair time. Extra butt in chair time eventually turns into extra pudge around the middle. I'd say I'm beginning to look that sweet Humpty Dumpty, but my legs aren't that skinny. I'm not the sort who is ever obsessed with body beautiful, but I don't want to have a heart attack either. So, this year, I'm adjusting my 2016 goals to add some life balance to the work goals.
1. Lose weight- every pound shaved off is a win.
2. Declutter rooms to declutter the mind.
3. Publish two books.
We survived the snow storm! I'm one of those weird people who enjoy being snowed in. I know. I'm a freak.
I'm also not an essential human being who has to be on the roads. If I was, I'd probably see the snow differently. Prayers and thanks to all the people who have to brave the weather to keep us safe and sound. My husband never gets to have a day off, so I feel a little guilty when I join my boys in their snow dances. Fortunately, my husband is a good sport and a good driver, so he never puts a damper on our snow excitement.
I'm also not an essential human being who has to be on the roads. If I was, I'd probably see the snow differently. Prayers and thanks to all the people who have to brave the weather to keep us safe and sound. My husband never gets to have a day off, so I feel a little guilty when I join my boys in their snow dances. Fortunately, my husband is a good sport and a good driver, so he never puts a damper on our snow excitement.
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